2016-08-30 pixa barefoot-482747_1920“Abandon yourself to God as you understand God. Admit your faults to Him and to your fellows. Clear away the wreckage of your past. Give freely of what you find and join us. We shall be with you in the Fellowship of the Spirit, and you will surely meet some of us as you trudge the Road of Happy Destiny.”

~A Vision For You from the Big Book

“The advance may be almost imperceptible from one day to another, but it will be perceptible at longer intervals and the one who is thus moving forward . . .”

~Thomas Troward


Trudge – No Skip Instead

When I hear someone say something like “keep trudging” or use some form of that word, I pretty much know that person is one of us. Based on the often-read and repeated passage from the Big Book “… and you will surely meet some of us as you trudge the Road of Happy Destiny.”  I feel a kindred connection when I hear it, and if possible I like to make eye contact – wink, nod.

“Trudge” if I google it, is described as “a laborious or difficult walk.” Also, “walk slowly and with heavy steps, typically because of exhaustion or harsh conditions.”

Maybe that describes how it feels in the beginning of the journey toward recovery, sobriety, and freedom, but for me once even a little bit of momentum was gained, the word really no longer applied.

Today I feel like I practically skip along the Road of Happy Destiny, or at least walk with a brisk gait most of the time.

This is a great example of how we subconsciously keep ourselves in the “bondage of self” without even realizing it. The emotional sub-tones associated with a word or experience can be up-leveled by mindfully replacing a word with one that has a different tone to it. It’s a simple and subtle nuance but a game-changer.

Of course I’m not suggesting altering the text of the Big Book or anything like that, but in my awareness, I like to be ready to do a mental adjustment that works for me.

Some other nuances that have come in handy include focusing on my sobriety, not on my alcoholism / addictions.  And imaging and verbalizing my life as I want it to be, not reliving my old stories over and over. I know that if I focus on drama, I will experience more drama. I know that if I focus on solutions, I will experience more solutions. This is the way it works.

And while we’re at it, I do like the concept of a Road of Happy Destiny. As long as I remember that I have the power to effect my destiny by my free choice and right thinking. By thinking right, knowing and expecting great outcomes, and staying in fit spiritual condition, this will always be the road I travel. And I will surely meet many of you there…

Are you willing to keep an ear trained toward words that give you an undesired emotional message?
What words or concepts have you already adjusted to fit your program better?


In gratitude, harmony and support,


Trudge – No Skip Instead

4 thoughts on “Trudge – No Skip Instead

  • August 31, 2016 at 5:47 am

    Some key words that are said at meetings are: Lifted – the obsession of cravings for Alcohol/Drugs. This is a very powerful word and makes me wonder if this is 100% truth. I do not crave Alcohol most days, but it does pop into my mind at times. Lately not so much.

    Next is: keep coming back, it works if you work it – I find this encouraging. For myself AA is important, but I need the outside help also (ex: Therapy).

    Thank You.

    • August 31, 2016 at 9:27 pm

      Karen thanks for your words – I too notice the thought of alcohol / drugs pop in my mind, though like you said, less and less frequently – and even less so with that “craving” kind of energy. That for sure has “lifted.” What’s new now is that realization I do not have to act on the thought… More of an observance and quick replacement with an empowering thought. Support inside and outside of AA helps me too. Thank you Karen.

  • September 1, 2016 at 8:36 am

    If this is trudging then no problem. Considering how I used to travel, this path is like an escalator 😊 Lena, you are a fine example of how good it can be. My soul lights up each time I see you. Have a fantastic day!!

    • September 1, 2016 at 10:11 pm

      So great Jon to be trudging, skipping, escalating with you. Thank you.


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