“Abandon yourself to God as you understand God. Admit your faults to Him and to your fellows. Clear away the wreckage of your past. Give freely of what you find and join us. We shall be with you in the Fellowship of the Spirit, and you will surely meet some of us as you trudge the Road of Happy Destiny.”
~A Vision For You from the Big Book
“The advance may be almost imperceptible from one day to another, but it will be perceptible at longer intervals and the one who is thus moving forward . . .”
Trudge – No Skip Instead
When I hear someone say something like “keep trudging” or use some form of that word, I pretty much know that person is one of us. Based on the often-read and repeated passage from the Big Book “… and you will surely meet some of us as you trudge the Road of Happy Destiny.” I feel a kindred connection when I hear it, and if possible I like to make eye contact – wink, nod.
“Trudge” if I google it, is described as “a laborious or difficult walk.” Also, “walk slowly and with heavy steps, typically because of exhaustion or harsh conditions.”
Maybe that describes how it feels in the beginning of the journey toward recovery, sobriety, and freedom, but for me once even a little bit of momentum was gained, the word really no longer applied.
Today I feel like I practically skip along the Road of Happy Destiny, or at least walk with a brisk gait most of the time.
This is a great example of how we subconsciously keep ourselves in the “bondage of self” without even realizing it. The emotional sub-tones associated with a word or experience can be up-leveled by mindfully replacing a word with one that has a different tone to it. It’s a simple and subtle nuance but a game-changer.
Of course I’m not suggesting altering the text of the Big Book or anything like that, but in my awareness, I like to be ready to do a mental adjustment that works for me.
Some other nuances that have come in handy include focusing on my sobriety, not on my alcoholism / addictions. And imaging and verbalizing my life as I want it to be, not reliving my old stories over and over. I know that if I focus on drama, I will experience more drama. I know that if I focus on solutions, I will experience more solutions. This is the way it works.
And while we’re at it, I do like the concept of a Road of Happy Destiny. As long as I remember that I have the power to effect my destiny by my free choice and right thinking. By thinking right, knowing and expecting great outcomes, and staying in fit spiritual condition, this will always be the road I travel. And I will surely meet many of you there…
Are you willing to keep an ear trained toward words that give you an undesired emotional message?
What words or concepts have you already adjusted to fit your program better?
In gratitude, harmony and support,