“Quite as important was the discovery that spiritual principles would solve all of my problems. I have since been brought into a way of living infinitely more satisfying and… more useful than the life I lived before.” ~The Big Book of AA ~More About Alcoholism
“The Thing then works for us by working through us and is us, always…It can become power to us only when we recognize it as power.” ~ The Science of Mind, Ernest Holmes
New Thought Sobriety welcomed this month of gratitude with a Gratitude List Post we ran on Tuesday, November 1. There are so many rich concepts written in that list. The one that jumped out at me today is: “I have a ‘roadmap’ by which to live and be.”
How grateful am I to have a roadmap called the 12 steps. The spiritual principles they’re built around have become embedded in my own spiritual program. They serve as my guideposts to help me know I am on track. Basically they are honesty, acceptance, faith, courage, integrity, willingness, humility, forgiveness, sincerity, perseverance, serenity, and service.
It is both empowering and calming to finally know that there is a higher power that I can trust as the driving force behind what I am creating. The cause and effect source that co-creates my experiences, from the huge and ambitious initiatives to the simple day-to-day matters.
I used to be in a bumper car experience when I was out there, on my own, doing it my way. I was perpetually riding in circles, banging into others and getting banged into myself because I couldn’t get out of my own way.
Now I know that my relationships, my health, my work, and my time and money freedom are all good and getting better because I have a road map – specific criteria to which I hold myself accountable, and specific ways to diffuse tense situations with others, or in my own head.
If I feel resentment rising, I can stand back and check for what it is in me that is being challenged, instead of acting out toward the circumstance, and blaming someone or something. I now know to pause and ask: “Is it helpful to say that at this time?” Asking questions such as: “What is my part in this?” or “Am I being selfish or self-serving here?”
Recently a loved one got very sick, very fast. A lot more questions than answers, and the answers that we were getting early on were at first not positive, comforting, or clarifying.
Having a road map to help me stay on course made all the difference. I didn’t react from a default place of panic. There were at times moments of fear and anxiety, but no hysteria. There was no bumper car spinning and banging. There was a calm faith. There was a pull toward positive people. There was an awareness to use words that communicated and out-pictured recovery. There was surrender. There was prayer, spiritual mind treatments, and meditations.
And once the storm had passed and we moved out of terrifying into the aftermath of exhaustion and re-stabilizing, the ability to stay within the guideposts remained. I realized I wasn’t just doing the spiritual practices in times of extremes; I realized that this is my new normal.
I trust my higher power, I trust myself, and I trust the principles as a road map.
What is your current default reaction when thrown into an unwanted circumstance?
How has that evolved? How would you like it to evolve more?
What are some other guideposts on your roadmap to serenity and health?
In gratitude, harmony and support,