“Accept – then act. Whatever the present moment contains accept it as if you had chosen it… this will miraculously transform your whole life.”
“God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.”
Surrender, Accept, and Please Pass the Cream
It’s the little things that remind me I really am getting better at surrendering that which I cannot control, at changing the things I can, and unleashing my wisdom to choose ease and grace over struggle and strife.
It can be something as simple as coffee, or lack thereof. I don’t consider coffee a vice, though I do have a borderline addictive desire for it each morning. However, it is the even stronger desire to lace it with CoffeeMate hazelnut creamer, with its list of unpronounceable, multi-syllabic ingredients, none of which seem to involve a cow, which poses potential concern.
I once threw a hissy fit on a par with my three-year-old self in a hotel room that didn’t have coffee or the above-mentioned creamer on demand, or some way to access it immediately. That was embarrassing and an example of non-surrender, non-acceptance. I used to be like that a lot. Even when not acting it out, it was frequently running in my head.
So this morning, on one of the few days in the week I do not dash out the door before 8:00 a.m., I had a full coffee pot but less than an inch of cream. I know this is beyond irrelevant on the world stage, but in my world, I sensed irritation (at myself and not something or someone else––progress!). The good news is that I was able to parlay it almost at once into gratitude that it’s merely a four-minute drive to the nearest source––or a 15-minute walk if I had to. And believe me, I would walk if I had to.
Practicing the serenity prayer of acceptance with inconsequential things helps ensure that larger things, such as disappointing affairs of the heart, the death of a loved one, or the stone-cold fear of addiction can ultimately be put in perspective, too. While those unpleasant and very consequential things hurt our heart and soul for a time, ultimately they offer opportunities to align with our Higher Power, and grow, painful though it is sometimes.
“There is no growth in the comfort zone; there is no comfort in the growth zone.” ~Anonymous.
Why does any of us still struggle or resist the need to surrender to our alcoholism and addictions?
Surrender is not only a sign of strength, but a sign of intelligence and self-survival instinct. We surrender in many ways every day without even thinking, or we’d better.
For example, I easily surrender to gravity; I respect it. If I am standing on a twelfth-floor balcony, I’m fine as long as I don’t dive off.
I easily surrender to fire; I respect it. I’m fine if I toast my marshmallow and warm my hands and feet, as long as I don’t reach my entire arm in there.
I easily surrender to my alcoholism while at a party or restaurant; I respect it. I’m fine if I drink Pellegrino or tonic as long as I steer way clear of the booze.
Do you still struggle or resist the need to surrender to your alcoholism and addictions?
Where do you exercise the strength of surrender?
Where could it help it you did?
In gratitude, harmony, and support,