Skip Instead of Trudge
When I hear someone say “keep trudging” or use some form of that word, I pretty much know that person is one of us. Nobody else really says that unless they’re tuned into the often- repeated passage from the Big Book “… you will surely meet some of us as you trudge the Road of Happy Destiny.”
“Trudge” however, by definition is “a laborious or difficult walk.” Also, “walk slowly and with heavy steps, typically because of exhaustion or harsh conditions.”
Maybe that describes how it feels in the beginning of the journey, but for me once a little bit of momentum was gained, the word trudge no longer applied.
Today I practically skip along the Road of Happy Destiny, or at least walk with a brisk gait most of the time. I know for a fact that many of you do too. Such a different energy infused into the thought or the conversation with that image.
This is a great example of how we subconsciously keep ourselves in the “bondage of self” without even realizing it. The emotional sub-tones associated with a word or experience can be shifted if we catch it. We can mindfully replace a word with one that has an uplifted energetic tone to it. It’s a subtle nuance but a game-changer because our subconscious is reading the feelings as much (if not more than) our words. And those downer words generate downer energy, or at least weaker energy.
Like when I say I’m going to try to do something. I listen for that and aim for something like my intention is to do it, or better yet, I’m going to do it! Replacing “hoping for something” with believing or expecting the thing – why not??
I’m learning to sharpen my awareness and be ready to do a mental adjustment on the spot.
Some others word swaps that have come in handy include focusing on my recovery, not my alcoholism/addictions. And even though getting sober is the best thing I’ve ever done, the definition of sober is: “marked by sedate, gravely, or earnestly thoughtful character or demeanor; seriousness; solemn, sedate, staid…” Kind of blah sounding, but my experience of “sober” is the opposite of those words…
And what about those everyday phrases: I have to go to Trader Joe’s. (That sounds trudgey. How about I get to go… or maybe I’m going to go to Trader Joe’s where there are friendly people, good music, and samples.)
I really should do my homework. I am dreading going to work tomorrow.
Also I’m learning to use colorful, warm, and inviting words, images, and feelings when I describe the present and future life that I am creating for myself. Not sugarcoating it but putting vibrancy into it from a positive perspective, and less focus on reliving with gusto my old stories over and over. I know that if I focus on drama, I will experience more drama. I know that if I focus on solutions, I will experience more solutions. This is the way it works.
And while we’re at it, I do like the concept of a Road of Happy Destiny. As long as I remember that I have the power to effect my destiny by right choices and right thinking. By knowing and expecting great outcomes but detaching from how they are “supposed to” look, and staying in fit spiritual condition, I will always travel that road. And I will surely meet many of you there…
Are you willing to keep an ear trained toward words that give you an undesired emotional message?
What words or concepts have you already adjusted to fit your program better?
In gratitude, harmony, and support,