We are always in the right place at the right time. Dwelling on the past or longing for the future purloins our enjoyment and appreciation of the present. And the present is perfect, just the way it is.This curated article from Veronica Valli’s blog says it all. You may read the original post here.
In gratitude, harmony, and support,
Everything you are going through right now is just preparation for what is coming next
We are in a constant state of wanting. Wanting the next stage, wanting the next thing to happen, wanting because we do not want to be where we are. When I get to the next stage in my life I will truly be successful. My life will have started. I will have everything I have always wanted.
It will be great then.
Right now, I have everything I have always wanted. I have always wanted a family. I have always wanted to belong to a group of people, who were my people. I have wanted to be loved by a deserving and wonderful man. I have wanted to write a book, have an independent career, have close friends, a home of my own etc, etc.
And I have all those things, yet I still find myself wanting. The big goal, the mind-blowing, I-can’t-believe-this-happened-to-me-goal, which is my family, has now become my normal, take it for granted everyday life. After years of being lonely, of being alone. Of looking at family groups in awe and wonder. Of facing holidays with so much time to fill and no real idea of how to fill it. Of being scared of all that time on my own, with no one. That is all gone. Now I am in the place of desperately wanting an hour or two to myself. To sleep uninterrupted. A whole weekend, with no one to please but myself, that would be an unimaginable luxury. But it doesn’t stop me from wanting it.
This does not mean I am ungrateful. I am deeply grateful for what I have because I know these days of being needed so much by these tiny little boys will pass, soon I will have more time, I will be needed less and of course, I will miss these days and yearn for them when they have gone.
Because now I understand that each of these moments is simply preparation for what is coming next.
The stage you are in right now is necessary. Without this experience, without the feelings you are feeling and without this process, you are going through. Then you wouldn’t have the opportunity to learn what you need to learn, for what is about to happen next. You would be unprepared.
So do not skip it. It would be such a loss to not have this experience, the one you are having right now. Because even if it’s painful, difficult, uncomfortable. There are riches within it and if you mine the experience you will discover the riches.
And the next moment, that is coming up, this could really be your moment. And right now you are simply being prepared for it.
Because every moment we are in, whether we want it or not, is actually just preparation for the next moment that is coming up…
And you wouldn’t want to miss that one.