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The Power of Hope

The Power of Hope

In AA they often say that the alcoholic has to hit rock bottom before they can get sober. Makes you think of social services, homelessness, and the park bench stereotype. I prefer to think of it as my turning point because it wasn’t a big or dramatic event, it was simply a combination of mainly two things: I’d had it with drinking, and at the right moment, I saw my life line. I was desperate to stop, and just when I needed it, there was a chance for me to ask for help so I did. Oh, and a third ingredient: a tiny bit of hope.

Prayer Treatment: Month of Hearts

Prayer Treatment: Month of Hearts

With deep appreciation, I look ahead and honor this precious month, the one that honors love. I gratefully open my heart and easily give and receive love in all its various forms. My heart beats in healthy rhythm to the beat of the Universe. I deeply and truly love my life, even with all its ups and downs… I breathe in and appreciate this short but sweet month with hearts displayed everywhere to remind me to love and be loved. I open my arms wide and gratefully welcome it, already filled with love, light, and limitless possibility…

The Need for Other People

The Need for Other People

I had worked on sobriety for quite some time before I understood that I was missing the magic ingredient of other people. I did not want to trouble anyone. I did not want to be different than anyone. And I felt no personal connection to women in recovery. I wanted to quietly change one tiny part of my life and then get on with the rest of it. So I took the isolated approach. I troubled no one; was no different than anyone; and developed no personal connections.

10 Contrary Actions for Life’s Little Moments

10 Contrary Actions for Life’s Little Moments

Here are some examples of contrary actions for “Life’s Little Moments”––what would you add to this list?

Take a walk instead of a nap… Take some deep breaths instead of speaking out in anger at someone… Give someone a compliment when feeling envious or less-than… Make amends instead of plotting revenge… Engage in visualizing the life of your dreams instead of engaging in “morbid reflection…”

Recovery Consciousness: With or Without God?

Recovery Consciousness: With or Without God?

Why is the idea of “belonging to something greater than oneself” such an intense psychosocial need? More importantly, is “God” the only path to that sort of belonging? And is sobriety — and even regular garden-variety self-improvement — really out of reach if one does not believe in the supernatural? Many people believe so… What is the benefit of twining religion with addiction recovery? And is there hope for addicts who prefer a different type of motivation than “spiritual guidance” for turning their life around?

What’s in a Word?

What’s in a Word?

If a picture is worth 1000 words, then a word is worth 1000 pictures. Since waking up to this, I’m more selective with my words, whether uttered or just in thought. In the past, words tumbled mindlessly around in my head stirring up emotions, frequently negative, that would spontaneously combust into a tirade or a tantrum, or simmer as internal gloom, fear, or resentment. And I thought it was real. I simply wasn’t paying attention.

The Importance of Emotional Sobriety

The Importance of Emotional Sobriety

We give much attention to getting sober from drugs and alcohol but emotional sobriety is something that, in alcoholic or dysfunctional families, everyone loses. And everyone needs to get back. The essence of emotional sobriety is good self-regulation… when we can’t bring our feeling and thinking into some sort of balance, our life and our relationships feel out of balance too. The ability to self-regulate, to bring ourselves into balance, is key to emotional sobriety.

Serenity… In a Prayer

Serenity… In a Prayer

The Serenity Prayer… only 27 little words, but with such power, strength, and insight packed perfectly within. Potentially treacherous situations––like being at work or being at home, being with my kids or with my parent, throughout my marriages and for sure during my divorces, in conversations and confrontations––this mantra, this ultimate navigational tool, can be counted on to unfailingly guide me through.