Words are symbols comprised of a bunch of letters or sounds, but it’s the feelings they trigger based on the meanings I give them that hold all the power. If I’m tuned in to that, I can simply substitute a different phase that won’t cause a subconscious knee jerk reaction. In flows the good. Bill Wilson, the founder and daddy of AA, did this. Skeptical of and resistant to religious verbiage, his life changed when he learned to construct and verbalize his own image of what his Higher Power is. His very own Spiritual Experience.
Life changing moments often come unexpectedly. The good, the bad and the ones an individual never wishes to experience. For Nathan Harmon that moment occurred in July of 2009. It was a night that was supposed to be filled with laughter and a new friendship. That ultimately ended with a fatal car accident leaving 28 year old, Priscilla Owens gone forever, a girl he had known for only three weeks.
This week marks 31 years since my extraordinary daughter was born. However, she was not due for another two weeks, a date I had etched into my brain and had joyfully anticipated (along with some fear and nervousness) for nine months. I had read all the books and taken the classes, and I knew what to do when my water broke and when the labor pains could be timed at specific intervals…
I am grateful to know I am in the perfect place for me. I give myself permission to slow down, to listen to divine inner wisdom, and enjoy. August is the perfect month to stay awake, remain curious, listen deeply, and glide into what is next like an invigorating ride down a water slide.
I didn’t wake up one day sober and filled with a sense of peace. I’ve been wandering around this planet for 20 years, and I’ve spent the vast majority of them sabotaging myself compared to the few years I’ve put towards recovery. In the last year though, I’ve found that by actively trying to connect to some power in the Universe that is not me, I’ve come much closer to finding myself than I ever could have dreamed. I’m still learning, and there’s so much to spirituality and recovery that I haven’t even begun to tap into, but that’s why I focus on taking things one day at a time. Healing doesn’t happen overnight, but as long you continue to pursue it the sky’s the limit, recovery is infinite, and anything is truly possible.
An article in the August 2018 issue of Science of Mind Magazine, written by regular contributors Mark Waldman and Andrew Newberg, showcases the benefits of slowing way down when walking––even creating a meditation out of it. A list of suggested affirmations is provided to say with each step to help slow and center our mind and brain, a departure from the mindless way we typically approach this experience. The authors list ten, and they suggest “for extra credit” that we make up two more of our own to create our personal 12-Step Walking Meditation.
Birthdays in my family growing up were not celebrated in any great ways. We’d get a present but no special treatment, no special dinner, certainly no party, and mostly no cakes, if memory serves. My sister and I validated this years ago, so once we had our own kids, we especially love to celebrate in the rightful manner.
Every control freak moment is actually just my mind going into self-pity mode or self-righteous mode. I notice, ask myself the question, and call the story out. Sometimes the stories will pop back up, but I see through them. They have lost their power. Stressful situations are not about being right or being mistreated—they’re about my choices. No one makes me do anything. So, I don’t have to control anyone. When the stories try to destabilize me, I used to overcompensate by seeking control…