12-step recovery stresses the importance of have a spiritual experience as a means of achieving sobriety. Many people may interpret the spiritual experience as a sudden “white light” awakening. However, for many men and women in recovery, the spiritual experience occurs gradually over time.
I am grateful to know I am freer from the bondage of self than ever before. I celebrate my independence from the need for alcohol, drugs, and behaviors that no longer serve me. I know the vision I strive for guides me as I travel my path. I celebrate my progress, free from any expectation of perfection…
I’m a sober mom. I don’t drink alcohol. Ever. I went through my sh*t, dug myself out, and am now a mom in recovery. It’s been the most challenging work of my life, but I’ve gotten to a point where I’m so grateful for everything I’ve been through. I appreciate the little things in life more than I ever have before, and I have emerged as the best version of myself. Still, being in recovery can feel lonely at times. And being a mom in recovery? Maybe even more so. Here is what I want you to know about my life as a sober mom.
Father’s Day card shopping was always stressful. I’d go through dozens of cards. Nothing fit. All I wanted was one that said Happy Father’s Day, period. But those were scarce. Mostly they dripped with sugary sweet sentiments like “Dad, you are the beacon of our family,” “You always had time for me and showed me how things were done,” or “You taught me right from wrong.” And the clincher: “I hope when I grow up, I’ll be just like you.” That was the last thing I wanted. But, ironically, that’s exactly what happened.
Circumstances can derail us temporarily, even though it doesn’t feel temporary to me when I’m in that space. All the pithy phrases that roll through my mind can ring hollow and sound trite when my pendulum is swinging the other way––quite unlike their tone when I’m feeling confident, on top of the world, and in the flow. But even in my sometimes sarcastic mind, I do know the principles are pure and true. They stand strong when I feel weak. They will be there waiting for me when I am ready to let their truths back in.
At New Thought Sobriety, we are great fans of Tommy Rosen––author, yoga teacher, and founder of Recovery 2.0! Tommy was interviewed this week on The SHAIR Podcast, and we are excited to re-post that episode for our followers. How can a person can get from a rock bottom life in addiction to an extraordinary life in sobriety? Just listen to Tommy Rosen’s story of true transformation.
Prayer Treatment: The Seed of Creativity Right here and right now as I receive this current breath, I fully sense the powerful underlying and overriding presence of the one Universal Intelligence. I am infused with this Infinite Power.
In order to avoid one of the biggest threats in long term sobriety you are going to have to use a proactive approach to your recovery. This has to happen on a day-to-day basis, even after having been clean and sober for years or decades. The threat is complacency: You tend to get lazy as you rack up more and more clean time and you get more and more comfortable living the sober life. Suddenly you no longer have to push yourself nearly as hard as you once did in order to maintain sobriety. Living sober becomes familiar, easy, more automatic.