It’s interesting to me that working the steps in a structured way is a great recipe for living a livable and lovable life.
One of my great lessons continues to be ‘trust the process.’ Specifically with regard to the steps curriculum, it’s remarkable how the realizations of each one naturally flows into and paves the way for the next.
“Selfish” was the topic at an AA meeting I recently attended. In Science of Mind I’ve heard references to the “Self with the capital S” as opposed to “self,” meaning the awareness of our Higher Power Self, eternally connected with the One Mind, vs the ego-driven small self that is grappling for that which we already are and have such as love, peace, wholeness, acceptance and all the other good stuff.
If I could drink like a normie, I’d drink every day.
That’s a joke. Normies wouldn’t even think to drink every day – they don’t feel the desire, inclination or compulsion to do that. Quite an odd concept to those of us who made The Drink the focal point of every social exchange, event, party, gathering, holiday, meal, task, chore, conversation, etc.
There is something so possible, so open, and freeing about a new calendar for a new year. My calendar of choice is the old-fashioned kind I can write in, not the electronic variety, though I am learning to embrace both. Progress not perfection.
Not just in recovery, not just in New Thought and all other wisdom teachings, but in real life, breaking it down to smaller chunks, even to this very instant makes things palatable, tolerable, and manageable.
More than just a concept or pithy phrase, “one day at a time (or ODAAT as I’ve seen it written) is a survival tool. I have spent too much time lamenting some aspects of my past (before actively practicing “accepting the things I cannot change”) and panicking about my future – most always about things that didn’t come to pass…
I came into recovery through the rooms of AA. I immediately loved the program and the energy around the vast majority of the meetings I landed in. A road map was offered within these rooms … something I clutched tightly to. It helped a shaky me step into solid sobriety with a plan and a structure, a format, a time-tested way to proceed, to succeed. I needed something clear cut and specific to direct me, and AA was absolutely that for me.
When I used to hear people refer to their “program” I had no idea what they were talking about. I suppose it can mean different things to different people, but in my pre-sobriety days, what I had going on was a default program. I didn’t even realize it existed, let alone know that it was the main operating system in my life. I was running on the subconscious programming I had picked up, mostly fueled by false beliefs and unskillful behaviors, to put it mildly.
Through Science of Mind / New Thought principles I learn I have always been creating my experience through my infinite connection to my spiritual Higher Power, whether consciously or (most often) unconsciously. Through working the 12 Steps of AA and reflecting back over past experiences, I learn that this power has always had my back even when I was clueless, felt underserving, or tested it carelessly.