10 Sober Stress Relievers That Work Better Than Taking a Drink

10 Sober Stress Relievers That Work Better Than Taking a Drink

We are starting a new tradition here at the New Thought Sobriety blog. The first Tuesday of each month, we will publish a post in the form of a LIST (after all, who doesn’t love a list?).

Each list post will feature things that are helpful, informative, educational, or inspiring! For example, “Top 10 Books on Recovery and Spirituality” or “Five Ways to Move Through the Holidays Peacefully.”

Enjoy our first one below, and let us know how you like it!

Anger: A Tool, Not a Lifestyle

Anger: A Tool, Not a Lifestyle

Fear, rage, and shame. These were the dominant emotions in my home growing up.
I also recall a lot of shushing. People were “sleeping” [aka passed out], so shhhh. Loud emotions were squelched.

Healthy modeling of how to express anger I do not recall. Anger was at times downplayed or denied; other times fire-breathing and frightening.

So I am still fine tuning my anger-expressing skills. Actually even identifying and feeling anger. For me the learning experience is (a) how not to repress it– and (b) then what?

Raindrops on Roses, and AA and Science of Mind

Raindrops on Roses, and AA and Science of Mind

Thanks to my friend Peggy who recently articulated such a profoundly simple statement that rang so true for me at the cellular level that I want to embrace it, let it sink into my consciousness, and share it.
She said that AA and Science of Mind are two of her favorite things.
Such a plain and simple truth that I can live by. These two paths go hand in hand and lead to a land of sanity, serenity, and spirituality.
I stumbled in SOM before Alcoholics Anonymous. Probably literally stumbled as I was drinking pretty heavily in those days.

Procrastination – Sloth in 5 Syllables

Procrastination – Sloth in 5 Syllables

I think I read the title quote in the 12 and 12.  I relate to it.

A sloth I do not relate to, but I do notice that sometimes my goals and objectives are clear-cut and concise. I may even go so far as to carve out time to tackle them. Like today for example, I had carved out 3 hours for specific tasks. Turns out about 2 ½ hours were spent doing other things that also needed doing, but were left over from past carved out time that got relegated to other things during their original window.
So overall I’m ahead of the game but still behind on specific intentions.

When We Were Six

When We Were Six

As a New Thought person I strive to keep my mind focused on the positive, on the desired, on new and forward thinking. But as a recovery person I choose to cast a glance back now and then, to see the progress (not perfection) of my journey, and to honor all of it.

Especially helpful when I feel stuck or disempowered, ineffective, and lost in space for a spell. I am learning to remind myself that I have come a long way. And to cut myself some slack.

I Work My Program or My Program Works Me

I Work My Program or My Program Works Me

Before, when I heard people refer to their “program” I had no idea what they were talking about. I had a program, all right, but it was a default program. I didn’t realize it existed, let alone know that it was the main operating system in my life. I was running on the subconscious programming I had picked up, largely by false beliefs and the unskillful behaviors of myself and others.

Voices

Voices

Before sobriety, it was always pretty jumbly in my head, as I recall. There was a steady din of noise that I had no idea I could intercept, re-pattern, or stop. I usually had no idea what it was specifically saying, but basically it wasn’t pretty, and it kept me in an emotional slump. The inner voices (I’ve heard referred to as The Committee) were not helpful or positive. They likely held me back, kept me struggling, doubtful, and afraid.

The ABCs of “I Am” – Affirmations from A to Zzzzz

The ABCs of “I Am” – Affirmations from A to Zzzzz

I try to remember to be mindful that what I put after that extremely powerful word duo will become my life experience. I Am… what I decide I am. Actually I Am what I believe I am, no more, no less. If I want to know what that really is, my results, situations, and circumstances will provide lots of clues for me to interpret.  Those clues will tell me what I believe to be true about who I am, and what I believe is possible or not for me.