The vast majority of community events take place in a setting where alcohol is served. Even when they don’t, such as a lecture for example, there are frequently comments made which draw attention to the normalcy of drinking. These comments are so common that they are ubiquitous. They go unnoticed in the natural, normal flow of things.
So much has been spoken, written, and sung about pain as the vehicle to a marvelous experience of healing, even about the reality being beautifully beyond imagination, that it must be true. How wonderful to have that lifeline to hold on to when things are falling apart. Maybe what is happening is that things are just in the midst of falling together.
In general, giving up sounds like defeat. In sobriety, giving up is a gift. Think surrender, letting go. And in the process, finding every wonderful thing waiting on the other side. This week’s guest post from Laura McKowen’s wonderful blog speaks to this idea rather beautifully.
Before recovery, I did not know I was at choice. Without a spiritual program, I lived in a reactive way, always ruled by conditions and circumstances. One of the greatest gifts of sobriety has been the realization that I always get to choose how I feel, what I want, how I respond, and more. This month’s list post includes a dozen happy, healthy, better choices sober people make. Enjoy, and please feel free to add a few in the comments!
There’s a good chance that you’ve heard of the word mindfulness. In fact, today many people have heard of mindfulness, but not exactly sure what it is or how to do it. Yet, many recovering addicts have been introduced to mindfulness in their recovery and have stayed committed to the practice because of its many benefits. Mindfulness is the practice of staying present and being aware of what’s going on inside of you and outside of you.
Getting sober is the greatest gift I ever gave myself. It’s my key to being able to enjoy all of the other many gifts of my life – those I have created, those I have attracted, those I have lucked into – and all combos of this interrelated energy. Being sober for me goes so far beyond The Rooms of AA – which I do consider sacred space. I have noticed though that many people seem to operate solely within the AA community . . . But it’s been very enriching and so much fun experimenting with other tribes for myself.
A common trait among alcoholics and addicts is an uncontrollable racing mind that travels from the past to the future to imagined scenarios in the blink of an eye. The mind of an alcoholic or addict can read like a stream of consciousness novel heading nowhere and everywhere at the same time. Often times, when a person finally gets sober, the noise of the mind is turned down to a tolerable level as the constant guilt and shame of the past is replaced with acceptance and spiritual principles, but that being said, the mind of someone with an addiction can still be a loud and confusing place.
We are going to know a new freedom and a new happiness. We will not regret the past nor wish to shut the door on it. We will comprehend the word serenity and will know peace. No matter how far down the scale we have gone, we will see how our experiences can benefit others. The feeling of uselessness and self pity will disappear. We will lose interest in selfish things and gain interest in our fellows. Self seeking will slip away. Our whole attitude and outlook on life will change. Fear of people and of economic insecurity will leave us. We will intuitively know how to handle situations which used to baffle us. We will suddenly realize that God is doing for us what we could not do for ourselves.