I was getting a massage at the chiropractor’s office this morning (gratitude) and the masseuse, who just hit 10 years of sobriety (a mutual topic previously discovered) told me that on the way to work this morning she stopped at the store and purchased (not one, but) 10 boxes of Mike and Ike candy. She was going to give it to her roommate to help her manage them as she knew that she could sit and eat 5 of them in one sitting… like the 4 ice creams she ate the other day. A Sister! Out of nowhere this can happen, though it may be months or years in between such sugar loads for either of us.
I hated those cruel commercials early on in my recovery – the ones where stunningly beautiful friends partied merrily, laughed cheerfully, looking chic, holding colorful cocktails or frosted mugs (I would have been holding one of each, by the way.) I wanted that but couldn’t have it. But a wise sponsor told me, “Oh yeah? Well mentally put yourself in that scene. Now fast forward 5 hours of so. See yourself now? Is that you with your mascara smeared under your eyes? What’s that you spilled on your shirt? Is that your voice blabbing too loudly and slurring your words? Keep going… where are you waking up? With who? Eww. There may be puking.
I want to tell you that my new eBook, Think Right Into Limitless Sobriety Volume II, is now available! Think Right Into Limitless Sobriety Volume II explores the spiritual principles of the next three steps in the 12-step program: Steps Four, Five and Six. And those principles include Courage, Willingness, and Vulnerability. I hope that you’ll give it a look, and I hope that you like it and get something out of it. And as always, please know I look forward to hearing your thoughts, your feedback, your comments on the books and on the blog.
10 Contrary Actions for Life’s Day-to-Day Experiences: Give someone a compliment when feeling envious or less-than… Take some deep breaths instead of speaking out in anger at someone… Engage in visualizing living the life of your dreams instead of engaging in “morbid reflection” based on personal conditions, world events, or bad decisions in the past… Lead a conversation about possibilities, ideas, and dreams instead of gossip, rumors, and drama.
During the early years of my sobriety, I went through several sponsors before I found “The One.” It’s not that the others weren’t great people––each one was wonderful in his or her own way––but the first time I heard J. share at a meeting, I realized she had something I wanted. That was 25 years ago, and working with her has been the mainstay of my sobriety. In my home group, we have a saying: “A sober woman is a class act.” J. is the embodiment of that phrase.
There are two kinds of people in my workplace: those who come and stay for years, and others who appear and escape before the ink dries on their business cards. One from the latter category recently left to avoid a toxic working relationship with someone in our office. This is the same person, I learned, who had recently moved out of her home to get away from her toxic and evil stepmother. I heard through the grapevine she recently asked one of her former co-workers how she can back away and remove herself from her dysfunctional relationship with a new boyfriend. Always running away from something unpleasant.
Our guest post this week is a brand-new article from Huffington Post. It is quite long, and we encourage you to savor every wonderful word! You may read the original post here. In gratitude, harmony, and support, What
I had already chugged several drinks before arriving at the restaurant for an office dinner party some years back. We were running late and arrived at last call on the cocktail hour, about to be seated for dinner. I grabbed one of the last drinks from the tray that was being passed, chugged it, and took a seat at the table. Within seconds I realized that I needed to get some food in me quick. The room was spinning, I couldn’t focus, and I knew if I opened my mouth, my words would be jumbled and lushy.