If somebody in your life tells you that they have quit drinking – whether for good, or for a few months – they have already soul-searched, agonised, researched, and thought dang long and dang hard about this decision. They will have tried moderation literally thousands of times already. They’ll tell you their reasons when they’re ready to. You’re on a “need to know” basis rather than a “right to know.” The fear of the “why aren’t you drinking?” question often keeps people stuck inside their drinking.
We’ve been talking about Recovery Consciousness lately. In a nutshell, as stated in our post from January 9, 2018, “Recovery Consciousness is honoring sobriety by allowing it to be a springboard into a full spectrum, abundantly expressed, enjoyably lived life.” This week we’re going out on a limb with our curated post, meaning some of our readers may be upset–or even angry–at the thought of someone rewriting The Steps. So, just to be clear, we are in no way saying that AA’s 12 Steps need to be rewritten. We simply wanted to share this article that offers a “translation” of sorts for people who, for whatever reason, want or need something a little different.
One night in the midst of a particular trying evening, I could see my daughter talking to me but I couldn’t hear her words: not because I was drunk, but because my head was ringing and I felt severe panic in my chest. I retreated to my bedroom and in a moment of clarity, I remembered the good healing energy I had felt when I had a meditation practice during my yoga teacher training. So I sat down and tried to just be with myself. I spent the next ten minutes of my “meditation” bawling my eyes out, but I feel better afterwards. That’s when I made a commitment to myself that I would carve out time EVERY SINGLE DAY to meditate.
I’m here to suggest that this year, instead of setting resolutions, which really is just a diabolical method for setting ourselves up to fail, maybe living your program is enough. And if you really do want to set a resolution of some kind, I’ve got some great news, people in Twelve Step recovery actually do New Year’s resolutions better than just about anybody. Why? Because we don’t set them, instead we work a program that allows, encourages and pretty much requires us to live our lives one day at a time.
As the festivities continue, we have a wonderful article curated from Sober Courage this week. You may read the original post here. Merry Christmas! In gratitude, harmony, and support, The Sober Holidays Survival Guide by MAGZ
The opposite of addiction isn’t sobriety. It really is connection – FRIENDSHIP. It has taken many years but I finally like myself again and have the “peeps” I feel good to be with in my life. For me, a few close friendships are absolutely vital to my Recovery. I can’t do this alone, it is too hard… the connections I have with my friends now are all HEALING. The ones that aren’t I just don’t give my energy to anymore. I finally understand the “love yourself first” concept – in sustainable Recovery, you must be able to recognize what empties you and what fills you up emotionally and spiritually.
For some people, the substance they are addicted to is like an old friend: available, reliable, trustworthy and comforting. Until that “friend” betrays you in the midst of the eventual fallout from addiction: job loss, relationship
failure or worse, tragedy and death. I am going to tell you part of my addiction and recovery story and try my best not to be cliché. Everybody’s story is unique and has very strange and dark elements and mine no less so. However, mine at times played like a Grisham novel – sinister forces portraying themselves to be friends but sucking the life out of my family for personal gain – that is the backdrop to my addiction story.
I bought a new pot of face cream. The package promised to “erase fine lines in a week,” which is great because it’s my birthday today and I wanted to have a wrinkle-free face by that milestone… I mean, I actually bought the cream – $37.99 – because the box said it would work its magic quickly. Isn’t that what we all look for? And it got me thinking. Getting sober is like standing in the Lotion and Creams aisle in the drugstore. We are all looking past the seductive packaging for the quick fix…