The question I am most often asked on here is this: how did you do it? How did you get sober? It seems like such a simple question, but the answer is complex. For some people struggling for years with addiction, I’m sure loved ones and significant others are always asking the question, “why now?” in terms of getting sober.
I had always struggled with vices. Binge drinking, daily cannabis use and chain-smoking were central parts of my life for well over a decade. Starting in my late teens and recovering in my early thirties meant my twenties took the greatest hit.
I had no idea that by experimenting with wine coolers at thirteen, I would completely alter the course of my life. By the blossoming age of twenty-one, I was barely alive from years of use and abuse . . .
After years of dealing with circumstantial traumas such as eating disorders, death, abuse, cancer, prison, and using my body to get what I want, I was ready to give up.
This week we bring you a wonderful article by Holly Glenn Whitaker from her blog, “Hip Sobriety.”
Holly writes: “The foundation to my success in sobriety and living a purpose-full, happy, healthy life is this: Meditation. That’s it. It’s the core, the beginning, the little seedling from which all things grew. Take it away and the rest crumbles.”
Today’s post includes a prayer and a meditation for alcoholics, excerpted from two of Ernest Holmes’ writings. The first is from Questions & Answers on the Science of Mind by Dr. Holmes and Alberta Smith. The second is the meditation that appears at the end of How to Help the Alcoholic to Help Himself by Dr. Holmes (we featured the body of this work last week).
Today’s post is from How to Help the Alcoholic to Help Himself by Ernest Holmes. “A person is not an alcoholic merely because he takes a drink. It is when the drink takes him that he becomes an alcoholic. This is called compulsive drinking, which means that the person’s will power or ability to choose for himself is broken down.”
This week we bring you a wonderful article from Regina Cates, author of Lead with Your Heart: Creating a Life of Love, Compassion and Purpose.
Regina writes, “We’ve all heard that happiness comes from within. Someone else can’t make us happy; we have to create our own happiness. We aren’t responsible for another person’s behavior, only for how we behave in response.”
A great deal of the time we go around with the attitude “It is what it is.” We are moored to our present sense of reality. But we are basing our assumptions on a transitory experience. We fail to take in the whole picture.