When I got sober I lived in a foreign country where being sober was basically unheard of. I didn’t know what any of this [stuff] meant – “pink cloud,” “90 in 90,” “sponsor,” “people, places, things.” I was truly on my own from the get-go with my sobriety. I paved my own way and I never considered that some people get sober and stay in a sober bubble, sometimes forever…
Several years ago at my recovery meeting the topic of discussion turned to prayer. It’s a hot button issue to people who are willing to start a minor skirmish over God and the definition thereof. I had opted to not share but then the meeting chair called on me to speak. Oh no! Briefly, I tried not to get into specifics by citing only the need for prayer in our programs. However, I made the mistake of saying that I do not make requests for God to fulfill my wants or desires. Immediately, I sensed the intensity of the man sitting next to me…
In order to deeply transform your spirit in addiction recovery, you have to also include balance in the equation. Meaning that you must treat the whole person and all aspects of your health, and all aspects of your life. If you zero in on spiritual practices alone then you may find that you have lost the forest for the trees. Meaning that you can get so laser focused on one aspect of your health that you neglect the other areas to the point that it causes you to relapse. I have watched this happen over and over again among my peers so I have taken measures to insure that I do not suffer the same fate.
If somebody in your life tells you that they have quit drinking – whether for good, or for a few months – they have already soul-searched, agonised, researched, and thought dang long and dang hard about this decision. They will have tried moderation literally thousands of times already. They’ll tell you their reasons when they’re ready to. You’re on a “need to know” basis rather than a “right to know.” The fear of the “why aren’t you drinking?” question often keeps people stuck inside their drinking.
We’ve been talking about Recovery Consciousness lately. In a nutshell, as stated in our post from January 9, 2018, “Recovery Consciousness is honoring sobriety by allowing it to be a springboard into a full spectrum, abundantly expressed, enjoyably lived life.” This week we’re going out on a limb with our curated post, meaning some of our readers may be upset–or even angry–at the thought of someone rewriting The Steps. So, just to be clear, we are in no way saying that AA’s 12 Steps need to be rewritten. We simply wanted to share this article that offers a “translation” of sorts for people who, for whatever reason, want or need something a little different.
One night in the midst of a particular trying evening, I could see my daughter talking to me but I couldn’t hear her words: not because I was drunk, but because my head was ringing and I felt severe panic in my chest. I retreated to my bedroom and in a moment of clarity, I remembered the good healing energy I had felt when I had a meditation practice during my yoga teacher training. So I sat down and tried to just be with myself. I spent the next ten minutes of my “meditation” bawling my eyes out, but I feel better afterwards. That’s when I made a commitment to myself that I would carve out time EVERY SINGLE DAY to meditate.
I’m here to suggest that this year, instead of setting resolutions, which really is just a diabolical method for setting ourselves up to fail, maybe living your program is enough. And if you really do want to set a resolution of some kind, I’ve got some great news, people in Twelve Step recovery actually do New Year’s resolutions better than just about anybody. Why? Because we don’t set them, instead we work a program that allows, encourages and pretty much requires us to live our lives one day at a time.
As the festivities continue, we have a wonderful article curated from Sober Courage this week. You may read the original post here. Merry Christmas! In gratitude, harmony, and support, The Sober Holidays Survival Guide by MAGZ