The Subtle Allure of Legalized Substances

The Subtle Allure of Legalized Substances

For people in recovery, the line between “sober” and “not sober” is typically clearly defined. Alcohol and illegal drugs are a definite no. But along the way, many of us have been faced with decisions regarding more subtle dangers such as cough syrup, cooking wine, and pain medication, to name a few. Our guest post today discusses the potential challenges engendered by the proliferation of cannabis products as they become legalized in more and more areas.

Believing in a Higher Power and Praying – from an Agnostic

Believing in a Higher Power and Praying – from an Agnostic

Today, I truly believe that there is a Higher Power that cares for all of us. I still do not believe in socialized religion but that’s ok. I have admired many Christian prayers and I have been able to rely on many Buddhist teachings… I have actually been able to feel the guiding power in my life and in times of need it was always there to protect me and steer me in the right direction…

Staying Sober with Prayer

Staying Sober with Prayer

The 12-step approach to spirituality long ago proved its benefits. What’s new is that science is backing spirituality as a recovery tool—and not just the 12-step version but also a wide range of practices, including prayer itself… research [has] found that people who pray more drink less… Surrendering to a Higher Power (HP) is, in the 12-step model, essential to recovery. And there is growing scientific support for this belief…

The Beauty of Sober Motherhood

The Beauty of Sober Motherhood

I am a sober mom. Initially, I thought there were only a few of us—like we’re an endangered species only talked about in recovery circles. The wine culture that social media often promotes might seem to contradict this, but more and more moms are choosing not to drink. When my children were very little, I leaned heavily on that five o’clock cocktail. I can remember many afternoons when I would be sitting, either miserably hungover or miserably waiting until I could crack open a bottle…

Dealing with Emotions in Recovery

Dealing with Emotions in Recovery

In the early days and weeks of recovery ‘feeling all the feels’ is like being on a furious roller coaster. After I quit my heavy drinking habit I lurched from one emotional state to another like a crazy woman. One minute screaming at the kids, then crying for no apparent reason, feeling waves of awful hopeless, and often this horrible itchy boredom. But slowly – very slowly – things calmed down. I got better at navigating my way through tough times. I became familiar with my anger and sadness and less reactive to them. I was able to stop myself from losing the plot at the drop of a hat.

Coming Undone in Recovery

Coming Undone in Recovery

To think of recovery as linear – a continuum of getting better and better – is misguided at best. Recovery is messy as hell. It is a series of becoming undone, reforming, and blooming – again and again. Anyone who tells you it’s plain sailing once you get sober, or that your inner turmoil is a reflection of your broken spiritual state, is entirely misguided. I just turned six years sober and have never felt so broken and undone in my entire recovery journey so far. No amount of spiritual work is touching the surface, only easing the pain and my relationship to it.

A Bold and Wonderful Path

A Bold and Wonderful Path

When I started to feel like drinking culture was no longer serving me a few years ago, I was admittedly resistant about being “sober” because of the social stigma I held around the label. I didn’t want to be “sober” because I didn’t want to have a “problem” … I was – by all accounts – a completely normal social drinker … But when I looked at how drinking made me feel (lethargic, unmotivated, sometimes sad, regretful, empty) and behave (obnoxious, unconfident, judgmental, snarky, over-the-top), I knew with certainty that I was not being the best version of me …