“The idea that somehow, someday he will control and enjoy his drinking is the great obsession of every abnormal drinker.” ~Bill Wilson, Alcoholics Anonymous
“In treatment we turn entirely away from the condition, because as long as we look at it, we cannot overcome it… (it is) the science of inducing …concepts, acceptances, and realizations of peace, poise… health, happiness…or whatever the particular need may be.” ~Ernest Holmes, The Science of Mind
A brief but heartfelt conversation recently hit on a favorite topic of mine, which feels similar to the chicken or the egg conundrum. A lot of back-and-forth possibilities.
My friend is having trouble synching her Science of Mind understanding with Alcoholics Anonymous when it comes to saying “I am an alcoholic” in what sounds like affirmative verbiage. A core tenet of 12 Step recovery is saying “I am that”, recognizing and admitting that alcohol has taken a vice-like grip in the physical, mental, and emotional domains and is encroaching upon a balanced and peaceful life.
“I am a recovering alcoholic” rolled off her tongue a bit easier. This seems like a good solution to some if it enables her to consciously and semi-comfortably explore the unwanted possibility. This beats keeping it down to lurk in the blind spots and shadows of the subconscious where fears misfire in harmful ways.
I’m always interested in considering how this quandary can show up as a slippery slope for Science of Mind people. On the surface it can be interpreted as going against what we learn, which is to affirm what we want, not what we don’t want.
Do I want to affirm that I am an alcoholic? Me? Well, yeah I do.
That way I can comprehend and incorporate my limitations as they relate to alcohol. It doesn’t make me a bad person. Spiritually I am whole, perfect, and complete yet open to my next phase of growth and development.
What I prefer to affirm is that I am a sober woman practicing health, peace, authenticity in my relationships, clarity, energy, success – the list goes on. When I was drinking to excess I was none of these things.
My alcoholism is inescapably connected to my sobriety, which has up-leveled my life beyond expectation.
Alcoholism is a condition. That is so key. I have conditions to contend with every day. I am part of the human condition, and that comes with things that may be considered limitations. Example: it is unlikely that I can go physically airborne at will and soar around the room.
What about the people who have lost the use of their eyes. Is it wrong for them to affirm they are blind? (Apologies if that word is now politically incorrect; if so, I missed that.) They need to know that so they don’t randomly walk out into traffic, but in countless ways they are not limited by it.
People learn to cooperate with their conditions to embrace the richest, fullest life experience possible.
I choose to deal with my alcoholism by focusing on being sober. If I choose to ignore this condition by ingesting alcohol, I believe I will have undesirable consequences. I am done testing that theory.
Perhaps in some kind of metaphysical way I could supersede my physical self of alcoholism at a cellular molecular level but I don’t want to spend my energy on that. It’s too much fun being sober, way too enriching, satisfying, and rewarding.
- Do you have difficulty affirming your addiction / alcoholism?
- If so, what do you affirm to remain sober, straight, and serene?
- Can you name other “limitations” that do not limit you?
In gratitude, harmony and support,