Our guest post this week, curated from the blog at Mindworks, is a beautiful reminder that focusing on the here and now is the key to peace and serenity. You may access the original article here. In gratitude, harmony, and
Do you find that even though you know you can hit the reset button any time you choose, there’s something about a new calendar year that invites a really serious evaluation of what ought to be reset? What’s calling for more… what’s calling for less? Here, just days into the new year, I can already feel the gravitational pull of the old familiar starting to tug at me. And all of my intentions start to feel more “out there” than “right here right now.” UNLESS actions are taken…
If you take the time to create actionable goals for yourself, your New Year’s resolutions can be an important tool in promoting a lasting recovery. Most New Year’s resolutions fail because they are too vague or the person making the resolution hasn’t thought about how to achieve their goal. To set effective goals, the SMART goals framework is well-suited for people in recovery because it provides concrete suggestions for breaking down the vague goal of “sober” into a series of steps that provide a foundation for success.
How good it is to be fully present in this exact moment and remember to remember there is one all-encompassing intelligent power that envelopes and indwells me, now and always. I sense my Higher Power with recognition and appreciation that It is and always has been right here, right there, and everywhere… With deep exhilaration, I look ahead to a fresh clean slate of a new year, a new beginning, and a bubbling sense of pure potentiality. I carry forward with me all that still serves me and others from the previous year, and I gently release and set down that which does not.
During my first year of sobriety, the mere thought of New Year’s Eve had me panicking months in advance (like, September). I couldn’t fathom the idea of spending such a holiday without my two besties: drugs and alcohol… Now, two years later, I find myself less and less preoccupied (read: obsessed) with these two formerly-preferred party favors of mine. I’m by no means cured of my addiction… All I have are my own experiences and ideas to share. In the past 24 months, I’ve actually managed to enjoy several smashingly jocular holidays without the use of drugs or alcohol.
This is a time of year when we all tend to make lists – Christmas lists, New Year’s lists, even lists of lists… Here is a list of All I Want For Christmas right here, right now, and for the New Year too… Well, maybe not all, but a good solid starting point. And you?
It is not the abstaining from alcohol that’s difficult and isolating—it’s the stubborn insistence that you either play along with faux revelry or keep quiet and drink your juice with a smile. It’s a false dichotomy: one that says you must either lie to yourself and others, or be miserable. You are either the whole, happy town of Whoville or the Grinch, determined to abscond with everyone else’s joy. This is why we sober people get quiet in groups of holiday revelers: We can’t quite play along, but we also don’t want to get in the way of your fun.
For some reason, cable companies seem to think having 200+ channels is a selling point. But I can only watch one at a time. No matter how many there are to choose from, I’ll only see on my screen what my tuner is set to in that moment. This great TV analogy always helps me grasp that it’s how I tune my focus and my thinking that determines what scenes, images, and experiences play out on the screen of my life.