Everybody is posting New Year’s resolutions via social media. Meanwhile, my 41 year old butt is over here thinking, “Hahahaha, clearly these folks aren’t in a 12 step group or have learned from years of failed resolutions like myself!” Maybe I’m being a bit judgmental but if I asked for a show of hands what percentage of folks kept those resolutions all year long; my guess would be very few hands would be raised.
I forgot to pack my cell phone charger recently for a two-day conference away from home. Probably because I didn’t bring my laptop (gulp… immediate separation anxiety and much inner dialogue there) but I concluded it was best to not schlep it around since I’d have little time to use it. Besides, I’d have my phone for social media check-ins, emails, emergencies, etc. But since I didn’t bring my usual computer case where I typically stash all my plugs and electronics, my cell phone charger was left behind. Yeah I could have purchased one on the road, but decided to use this situation as an observational experiment.
Remember that pivotal scene in Bridget Jones’ Diary when she tells her friends that Mark Darcy has told her he likes her “very much – just as you are“? They react with wide-eyed amazement. “Just as you freakin’ are?” one of them repeats with disbelief. It’s so simple yet rare to have that kind of love, right?
Be honest with what is needed and wanted… Be specific in my desired outcome… Stretch myself in ways that feel challenging, empowering, and also doable… Be willing to use my will and my Higher Power / God’s will to continually envision the desired outcome… Be gentle but firm with myself (like training a puppy.)
Though it may be hard to believe at first, being sober over the holidays doesn’t have to be dull. When you come up with a plan, and stop and focus on the reasoning behind your sobriety, you’ll remember why it’s important. And once the holidays pass, you’ll be glad you didn’t give in to temptations. That’s a promise.
In this unique and powerful moment, I know there is truly only one underlying, overriding intelligence, wisdom, power, and presence that is all around me. It is my Higher Power, the Highest Power. It penetrates, permeates, and courses through each and all of us at all times. I breathe in and receive this power, knowing I am one with that which I sometimes call Spirit, Mother Nature, God, Divinity, The One, or sometimes call it nothing at all. I sense It, and know that It operates within me, and I operate within It.
Ahhhhhh…..the holidays—they are approaching like a speeding train. This is a season that can be bittersweet—for the great expectations that so many people have can often lead to disappointment. Seeing family and friends can be a blessing, but at the same time lead to additional seasonal stress. Answering the same questions over and over again can trigger intense emotions. Did you graduate yet? Are you still at that lousy job? Any kids? Are you still single? And comparing yourself to your seemingly “perfect” family members with their high-powered jobs, wonderful marriage and 2.5 children can be a recipe for the holiday blues.
To everyone receiving this email here’s knowing for you: A Holiday Season of Serenity, Reflection, Connection, and Fun! Knowing we all continue to experience the freedom of sobriety as we prepare to turn a page on the calendar and to peel more layers of the onion. Knowing we are guided and guarded in the final days of this year and all throughout the expansive new year ahead. Affirming that we are filled with empowering thoughts, actions, and fully engaged with ongoing personal growth and unfoldment.