Sober Holiday Self-Care

Sober Holiday Self-Care

Strong boundaries are the foundation of my self-care. I began by saying no to a glass of wine, but now I’m able to say no to other uncomfortable holiday activities… When I look at my calendar in December, I often feel like I might hyperventilate. This holiday season, I encourage you to listen to your own little voice. Set boundaries, take care of yourself, and remember… Your sobriety is the best gift you can give to yourself and your loved ones.

Prayer Treatment: Do You Hear What I Hear?

Prayer Treatment: Do You Hear What I Hear?

Right here and right now, I recognize there is one mystical magical power that knows when I am sleeping and knows when I’m awake. It is the all-knowing intelligence and power that is always omnipresent, not just at this magical time of year. It is my Higher Power, my Highest Power. I close my eyes and sense it within; I open my eyes and sense it all around me, in people, places, and things. With this awareness, I see everything in a new light.

Joyful Recovery Habits

Joyful Recovery Habits

Addiction causes changes within your brain that rob you of the ability to feel joy without the presence of alcohol or drugs. One of the biggest challenges of recovery is finding new ways to have fun. You may even have to force yourself to do things while your brain chemistry returns to normal. But here’s the good news – if you “fake it ‘til you make it”, you will find that engaging in healthy, positive activities can promote the natural production of your body’s “feel-good” chemicals. You will start enjoying yourself IN SPITE of yourself…

7 Things to Close Out this Month of Thanksgiving

7 Things to Close Out this Month of Thanksgiving

I am thankful I’m past the point of obsessing that 1½ bottles of wine was all that was consumed by 12 guests – and there was some left over in the bottle! I am thankful I could easily, unceremoniously, and instantly pour the leftover wine down the sink. I am thankful for leftover food however, and also that it’s just about gone…

Thanksgiving: Past and Present, Present and Sober

Thanksgiving: Past and Present, Present and Sober

As Thanksgiving approached, I was almost five months sober––and an orphan. Up until then, I had not experienced a holiday without my Mom and Dad. Honestly, I had no idea how I would make it through, much less stay sober. By the grace of God, the rooms of AA and the people in them, and my friends in Science of Mind, I did make it through––and I did stay sober. In a very real way, I learned what it meant to live one day at a time. And within those days, I frequently practiced living one moment at a time and one breath at a time.

More ABCs of Gratitude: A Fun Game – it’s Uplifting!

More ABCs of Gratitude: A Fun Game – it’s Uplifting!

Let’s face it, who could not use a little uplifting at this point in time? The holidays can have a funk to them. Maybe it’s the good, the bad, and some ugly family dynamics. Or missing loved ones, or plain loneliness, or sheer exhaustion. Maybe it’s those inner and outer fires raging, or omg the politics of the day. So draining. But wait––the truth is that the power is in me. I can care and cry for what is going on around me, and I do… and I can celebrate what comes from within. Gratitude comes from a deep place within that is always available and awaiting recognition and ignition. There is always an untapped reserve of things to be grateful for…

Emphasizing the Joy of Sobriety

Emphasizing the Joy of Sobriety

I stopped drinking almost 20 years ago, and I sometimes think that my real life began on that day in 1991. Getting sober was one of the best things I ever did, and, strangely, one of the most liberating. Drinking was one of the worst things I did, and I did it continuously and abusively from the age of 18 into my late 40s… I once thought that life couldn’t be fully experienced without alcohol: but the truth is the opposite – life can be more fully experienced without alcohol.

I Am What I Am… and More

I Am What I Am… and More

It doesn’t really bother me to say I’m an alcoholic. Not that I nonchalantly or indiscriminately blab it out, but when appropriate, I own up to it. But that’s because I now know that it’s a mere fraction of who I am. That is not my only adjective. In fact, I am a creative, strong, humorous, prolific, wise, open-minded, friendly, caring person in the process of discovery, recovery, and ongoing un-covery. I used to not be able to say any of that.